The Adventures of KatjaMichelle
A non-northwest native tries to figure out adulthood and survive TacomaOnline Dating: Not My Type
I often say I don’t have a type. Afterall I date men of all races, backgrounds, professions, education levels, etc. But last night I went out with a man so unlike anyone I’ve ever dated before. He’s only 5′9” (i’m 5′8” and like to wear heels). He has 6 tattoos with plans for more. He has a blue mohawk. He’s my age. And I like him.
To tel the truth I’m a little disappointed that I like him. I know most people date searching for love or at least lust, but recently I’ve just been searching for a good story. I mean aren’t we all tired of hearing about the married felon? I know I’m tired of telling that one so I need a new one. I’m kind of disappointed. Pathetic I know what kind of person is disappointed that a date went well? Me thats who.
Well Hell
So i just noticed that my blog timestamp is off. Instead of showing my local time it’s been eight hours ahead. Really not a big deal EXCEPT it means that my posts have the wrong dates on them and it appears I skipped a day of NaBloPoMo. But I didn’t I wrote everyday! Stupid time stamp. Good thing I realized this early so now I know I’ve already screwed up and it doesn’t matter if I write everyday now.
Online Dating: Does Race Matter?
While I haven’t been at this online dating thing exceptionally long I have played with a few different sites and they all have one thing in common: They are crap at sorting matches for race.
See I’m what some would call an, “other” but I detest checking the “other” box so when given the option to “check all that apply” I go for it. Each of the dating sites I have used give me the option to choose all that apply. However, it appears their software doesn’t register that more than one was selected and automatically put me in the mixed category it puts me in BOTH categories. (Which is technically more accurate than a mixed category.) It wouldn’t be a big deal except some people are VERY specific about the race of people they will or will not date. For instance some caucasian people who are very shall we say emphatic about their displeasure of my profile ending up in their matches for the day.
I have emailed customer service about this problem and recieved a form letter in response so I’ve decided just to ignore it, but it got me thinking. Is race that important? I know that to some it is, that for some dating “outside your race” is more than taboo its practically a sin. But that doesn’t work for me, not only on a philosophical level but just on a practical level. To date “inside my race” would finding someone mixed with the same races as I am be sufficent or would they need to be exactly the same percentage? Or should I subscribe to hypodecent and just find someone who’s “less desirable minority” race is the same as mine?
But because I know its important to some it doesn’t bother me when I come across a profile that says they’re only interested in caucasian women. And it only annoys me slightly when two specific races are selected; it feels more like they are being selected in for perhaps specific reasons than that the others are being excluded. But when I come across a profile that lists EVERY race including mixed and other but excludes black it is beyond annoying, it pisses me off.
An Open Letter To Washington Drivers
Dear Washington Drivers,
The left lane of the interstate is the fast lane. If you are in this lane doing the speed limit and someone comes up behind you please move to your right. If I am in front of you and you come up quickly behind me I will assume you wish to go faster than the 10 over the speed limit I am currently going and will likewise yield the fast lane to you. If this occurs please pass me in an appropriate time frame. Do not hang out in my blind spot making it impossible for me to reenter the fast lane.
Also going 10 below the speed limit through chambers and then speeding through Steilacoom is not only annoying but also unwise. Steilacoom=speed trap.
Lastly, but most importantly it rains all the damn time here LEARN TO DRIVE IN IT.
Thanks so much,
KatjaMichelle
Because I Don’t Have Enough To Do…
…I signed up for both NaBloPoMo and NaNoWriMo. Thats right. I signed up to write a blog post every single day for the entire month of November AND to write a 50 thousand word novel by midnight 30 November.
Any bets how long long before I give up on each?
Well lets see it’s already 4pm on November 1 and I’ve yet to write a single word toward my novel. I’m only just now posting to my blog. I’ve also not done a bit of research for EITHER of my grad school projects, a single load of laundry, or the dishes. Oh and I’m still in my pjs (although last night was quite a night so I forgive myself this last point).
So basically what I’m saying is that as a means to procrastinate from my homework and housework i signed up for two new things that I will now procrastinate instead of doing. I am AWESOME at procrastination.
Recent Thoughts on Dating
I’ve been getting most of my warm and fuzzies vicariously recently. Reading stories of an online friend’s relationship, hearing the details about the engagements of two classmates, seeing my brother-in-law with my sister and nieces during his 2week trip home from Afghanistan. All warm and fuzzy inducing events that one would think would inspire me to persue my own warm and fuzzy moments.
But they don’t. Quite the opposite to be honest. Searching for my own warm and fuzzy moments seems like way too much work when I can be almost as satisfied by watching others. Other’s who aren’t quite to socially retarded and emotionally stunted.
On the other hand I had drinks with IT-Guy monday. While our friendship will never be what it was it is being revived and we even shared our dating fiascos. I felt flares of jealousy but didn’t let them overpower me. In the past those flares of jealousy would spin me into shunning the dating world. Why bother dating when I’m still in love with IT-Guy.
But it didn’t. In fact my competitive nature kicked in and I came home and began searching the dating site again. Admittedly not the most mature reason to date but there it is nonetheless.
So here I am not really feeling the need to date because I’m satisfied watching the happiness of those around me and yet wanting to date because I can’t let IT-Guy win. And not just that I don’t want him to find a successful relationship before me (although honestly I don’t) but that next time we meet I want my dating fiascos to outdo his dating fiascos.
It’s not really a hard choice. I signed up for 6 months on the site. I’m only half way through my third. So there will be more dating fiascos to come.
Computer Literate at Three
Last night I got together with the family and Babykins, my three-year-old niece showed off her computer skills.
My dad opened a couple of webpages for her and she began using the mouse with her right hand (she’s a lefty) to scroll through the coloring sheets and pick the ones she wanted. She then clicked on the print icon and clicked the “ok” button and closed the windows she was done with. SHE’S THREE.
Every so often she’s announce “I DID IT”. It was adorable and amazing.
Of course then she demonstrated her lack of understanding of non-mobile phones. She’s an expert on the cell. She can play games on SisterFriend’s iphone. But she lives in a house with no land line so when a phone rings you have to answer the one that is ringing. So it frustrated and confused her to no end when the phone in my dad’s office rang and he insisted on answering the one in the kitchen. “NO grandpa THIS phone is ringing!”
I was amused.
Online Dating: It’s Not Me, It’s You
TRUE STORY:
I logged on to the online dating site to check my daily matches and an IM window pops up. Its the first time I’ve used this feature but am flattered that this guy wants to IM me until the conversation turns to his sister.
What started as a funny story about how one of his matches ended up being his sister turned into a kind of wierd story about how he is now IM-ing his sister (…on the dating websit mind you). It further evolved to him merely relaying his conversation with his sister to me.
I made a few attempt to have an actual conversation with him but it kept returning to his sister. I even went so far as to point out that he’s on a dating site not only talking to his sister but also talking to the girl who is not his sister about what his sister said and what should he say to her. He didn’t see a problem with that.
So yeah this is definately one case where the problem is clearly not me.
